By Ivorie Nicole
There comes a time where you are going to have to stop caring about what other people think.
Not just the people at work, school, or in public. But the people you call family.
Through a very difficult and raw emotional journey I learned that I am responsible for my happiness, my own success and all that revolves around who I allow into my life.
Learning that I need to cut ties with all the things that don’t serve me was hard.
There is a delicate balance between learning how to love your loved ones even when what they think is right for you is not what you know is right for you.
I had to find understanding in that people fall victim to their own perspective, myself included.
I had to accept that there will always be more to learn and more to do.
I found the confidence to know my perspective was my own, my path was my own, my life was my own. I define my life & need to very careful about who I allow to influence my decisions.
With time and practice, I continue to learn to listen to their advice, learn from their mistakes and take the knowledge from their stories and apply it where it is appropriate for me.
During the times their words are not appropriate for my own alignment I have learned to become confident in making my own decisions and to shamelessly make my own decision with confidence but I must note, I do my best not to act out of ego.
Isolation is not the answer.
Shame is not the answer.
Shame makes you feel like you’re not good enough.
You are worthy of love, you are good enough and you are allowed to set a new standard.
Don’t let your ego be your compass.
Be shameless but in the most poise of ways.
There is no shame in being honest.
There is no shame in being vulnerable.
There is no shame in being kind.
There is no shame in standing up for yourself.
There is no shame in loving yourself.
But trust that everything is working together on a divine level.
You just need to choose to trust, accept, & respond with the good.
So, just let it go.
Let go of what your family thinks is best for you.
Let go of bad habits.
Let go of limiting beliefs.
Let go of toxic people.
Let go of toxic thoughts.
Let go of toxic behaviors.
Stop mistreating people & remember to treat people the way you want to be treated.
If you live shamelessly, you will find peace in letting go of the outside press imposed by the ones around you.
You see, most confidence in making a decision comes specifically from understanding, really getting to the root of the problem.
I am shameless because I know I have pure intentions.
Spread the word
“Pain is certain, suffering is optional.” – Buddha