By Ivorie Nicole
I know we’ve all heard it before, the famous line that subliminally justifies poor decisions made by adults. Sorry if I am the one to break it you. But, the whole “children are resilient” is just another excuse that enables society to accept less than our capable potential. We live in a world that can be so backwards and unforgiving at times, where it is failing so many families and destroying the substance within our culture. The vulnerable need someone to hear them. The vulnerable need someone to speak for them until they’re strong enough to speak for themselves.
Unfortunately most people in society try to take away the voices children have. We manipulate their biological needs as early as infancy to fit our adult schedules, we limit them to a tiny and unhealthy processed kids menu filled with cheese and wheat and all things non living, we constantly tell them what to do & how to do it. Guidance is great and needed at every phase in life since we are never done growing & can never survive alone in this world but our kids voices and lives need to be protected better, more consciously. This can only be achieved by the care takers being and living more consciously.
Experiences as a child will leave a tremendous impression on the psyche of an adult, it doesn’t matter if the experience is positive or negative. Everything from the smell of breakfast, to the first and last day of almost anything new as a child will last a lifetime but over an entire life span our perspectives of those moments will change as we grow and change too. Some psychologists even claim subconsciously the memory of our birth is stored within us and that it is possible to remember your birth and the feelings your mother felt during your time in the utero.
The first seven years of a child’s life are the most impressionable, the most important as the developing mind in shaping all our memory, problems, joy, fears, sadness, and even the way we trust. Every personal engagement strikes an emotional response that will chisel one’s understanding, whether positive or negative to what life means to that little developing mind; its so personal, so unique just like a fingerprint, there will be no other mind alike.
The ACE’s study has measured that nearly two-thirds of the adult population has at least one Adverse Childhood Experience which is 64% of the population. This means that 64% of adults have had something traumatic occur in their life. We see a doctor for a physical yearly, we see an optometrist to ensure our eyes are seeing clearly, we see a dentists to make sure our teeth are healthy. But for some reason it is not normal for someone to seek mental health care even though statistically 80% of individuals who seek therapy have benefited from it.
The ACE study is just the beginning in bridging the gap between ancient healing and conventional science. The ACE study has revealed that the higher your ACE score, the higher you are at risk in enduring difficulties later in life. Things such as mental illness, chronic disease, violent relationships, instability in the workplace, divorce etc.. All things from bronchitis to arthritis and divorce to multiple sclerosis, lack of confidence to a shorter life expectancy is linked to adverse childhood experiences.
Children are not as resilient as we think. It’s time to break the cycle, a child’s resilience is unconditional love; children are not resilient, children love unconditionally and won’t ever stop until they stop loving themselves.
Peace on earth begins at birth. Peace in society starts with the family. Food is medicine. Your mind & body are natural healing vessels that want to love & honor itself and others. The power to heal hurt is by talking about the shit no one talks about. Anything is possible if it aligns with your destiny. You can go through hell and come out an angel.
You can experience adversity and break the cycle.
Before the children of today turn into adults of tomorrow it is everyone’s obligation to make sure our inner child is healing in it’s own lane away from where the children are traveling while simultaneously embracing the freedom, care-free, curious unconditional love a child is.
With love, Miss Ivorie
These photos remind how important it is for mothers, families and children to create memories.