Marriage & Divorce

Mental Dissonance

By Ivorie Nicole

To have and to hold, not to love and to scold.

From this day forward, not to lay as a coward.

For better, for worse, not to make you my curse.

For rich, for poor, not to be a bitch or a bore

In sickness and in health, we’ll build business and wealth.

To love and to cherish, not today, but one day I will perish.

So as long as we both shall live, loyalty and respect is all that I can give.

Moments will go slow, life will go fast.

So my love, even if we don’t last.

And we must separate and divorce, promise me, you’ll  honor our past.

We can always make love our source, even if we must separate and divorce.

You see, what we all say in our vows is

I take you to be mine,I give you this ring, I give you my heart.

I promise you promises I will try to keep even though I don’t know what is ahead my in life.

I promise you I will always serve you and prove my worth and my loyalty is all as yours.

I promise to give you constant validation even in the unknown.

I promise you constant self sacrifice but wait, marriage is supposed to be a beautiful thing.

Marriage should make this world a better place.

Marriage is supposed to make more houses a home.

Marriage is supposed to help clean up carnage not be the catapult to it.
 The vows of a lifetime, more like lifetime sentence of accepting my own mental dissonance at the hands of judgment of my spouse.

The vows of lifetime, where I can hide behind my mental illness, overcome it  if I choose or meet my grave because of it. Because, let’s not forget the vows you promised to give to me.  So I will take your heart, I will take the ring and use it for my own selfish unconscious cycle of self infliction.  The vows of a lifetime, is more like a lifetime sentence of accepting my own mental dissonance.

The vows of a lifetime, will force you to change, to grow, to trust and accept. Your worst critic should be your best supporter but never should be objectifying you, especially to abuse. The vows of a lifetime should make you feel challenged and empowered, not insecure and unworthy.

It should never be en exchange of give and take it should always be an exchange of honor and acceptance. I honor you as a human being, I honor you as my partner, I honor you as the future parent to our children. The union of two into one because that’s just what the heart; is two halves making one whole.

You ask, Miss Ivorie why should we listen to you?

Well, you see, you learn more from failure than you do success.

& if you stitch your entire identity into one and their heart dies; you might die too.

So as long as we both shall live, loyalty and respect is all that I can give.

Moments will go slow, life will go fast, so my love, even if we don’t last.

And we must separate and divorce, promise me, you’ll  honor our past.

Even if we must separate and divorce, we can always make love our source. 

I accept you for your flaws; past, present and future.

Not I take, Not I give.

But,

I honor you, I accept you.

I love you.

With love, Miss Ivorie

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